REFUSING TO FAIL IS FAILURE ITSELF
There is a major problem in the way that I am. However, this one problem specifically is the one that holds us ALL back from allowing our inner hero’s to rise. The refusal to allow ourselves to fail. Refusing the allowance of failure is not a choice made by YOU, it is the ego shielding itself from being exposed. This is achieved through pride, envy, gluttony, lust, anger, covetousness and slothfulness. These seven words represent the sins that we act out. The ego uses sin to fill the empty spaces because we absolutely hate feeling empty for even a moment. We go to absurd lengths to stay full, leaving no space for virtue or room to grow.
How do we fail appropriately through virtue? That is a hard question to answer. We believe that wanting something and trying to take it is good enough. “I want so, I tried” is too simple. Do we ever pay any attention to WHAT we want or HOW we tried?
To want means we take. We are addicted to owning things that we have no business owning in fact, we worship them as if we earned them. This is the definition of narcissistic entitlement, a dear relative to pride. The antidote to this however, is humility. Understanding where you stand and how you might effect others, especially those who you love is a responsibility less taken. Our dynamics are complicated, that is the difficult part that everyone tends to ignore and avoid breaking down for themselves. It takes modesty to bare the task of productively putting one’s self into a place where one belongs because what if you deserve to be in a bad place. It takes immense bravery to admit there is a responsibility to take and that we need to take it. You cannot be grateful for those in your life without having humility within your soul. Humility can be learned just by watching how you act and reminding yourself that what you do matters. The want to take responsibility and influence the people we love are motives that are big enough to induce change. We should be more willing to suffer the growing pains for those around us. It is the only way to get what we truly desire because want you want is meant to be worth everything otherwise, maybe you don’t know what you really want.
To try means to do more, add force and shove our way through our problems rather than struggle through them with some integrity. This is a result of anger, anger towards the fact that we do not already have what it is that we want. It is through this behaviour that we find ways to fail at failing. The power in this is that we are capable of changing what we want, we can want the process. We are so creative in finding ways to avoid the process because it is not easy so, we naturally do not want it and this angers us. In this, we are literally fighting our own biological make up to find the most convenient way to do anything. That is why we all have cars, grocery stores and power poles; who wants to walk around searching for food in the dark? The process results in becoming capable, it gives you something that is yours, it makes the meal taste so much better. The answer to earning what you want is simple, the antidote to anger, practice patience.
Telling ourselves “failure is never an option” is a huge mistake. Refusing to fail is the only way to indeed fail. It is too simple to want something and then try to take it blindly riding on the backs of our sins or even an excess of virtue. As Joe Rogan has put it “We define ourselves far too often by our past failures. That’s not you. You are the person right now. You’re the person who has learned from those failures. Build confidence and momentum with each good decision you make from here on out and choose to be inspired.” Do not be afraid to fail for the right reasons in the right way. CHOOSE to be inspired and you will inspire others, it is the only thing that forces you to become liberated from failure itself.
